I googled “non-verbal 3 year old” and, to my surprise, came upon your essay. My 3.5 year old son is non-verbal – simply cannot seem to make more than a few words and does not even use those consistently. I’ve tortured myself wondering why and have now pursued genetic testing to help find an explanation. In the meantime, I am so afraid of what life might be like if there is something we cannot fix and frustrated by a life we did not expect. Like your older child, our oldest son knows his brother is unlike other little brothers and he is so utterly accepting. I thank you for your perspective because I have to learn to accept and embrace the wonderful little boy I have and see the joys of life in his eyes… you have encouraged me to look at the good and simpler things to appreciate.

I would like to hear more about your journey with your son… what early signs did he have that alerted you to problems? How did you proceed with medical help? Does he get any therapies? I have so many questions and haven’t found too many parents with children who have similar speaking problems.

Thank you!

Tatyana

xo

Your mindset towards your unique son is admirable and humbling. Many would bemoan their fate, but you have found the “surprising” miracle of joy. I’m sure it can’t be easy, but here’s wishing you continued joy in sharing those amazing milestones with your son and family.

My daughter, 11, is reading a book in school called “Rules” by Cynthia Lord. It’s about a girl who has a brother with autism. She meets another boy who uses a wheelchair and does not use spoken words. Your essay and the book provide insight of the importance of language and the JOY! in finding SURPRISES! in discovering words. Thank you! Cathy